What To Do To Help Someone Who Is Going Through Child Abuse


Rosa Morales and Janet Luna Rosales

There have been many cases about child abuse. A report of child abuse is made every ten seconds in the United States. Every year, More than 4 million referrals are made to child protection agencies involving more than 4.3 million children (a referral can include multiple children)

What are some signs of suspected abuse:

  • Obvious malnourishment, listlessness or fatigue
  • Unexplained changes in behavior or personality
  • Having bruises

How to help them and what to do:

  • Approach the person at a time and place that is safe and confidential.
  • Start by expressing concern, such as, I am worried about your safety, I am concerned someone is hurting you.
  • Take the time to listen and believe what they say.
  • Communicate that you care about their safety, that they do not deserve to be hurt, and that the abuse is not their fault.
  • Tell them they are not crazy. A person who has been abused often feels upset, depressed, confused, and scared. Let them know that these are normal feelings.
  • Tell them good things about themselves. Let them know you think they are smart, strong, and brave. Their abuser may be tearing down their self-esteem.

What not to do:

  • Do not accuse, diagnose, or judge their choices; do not draw conclusions about what they may be experiencing or feeling; and do not judge or criticize their abuser.
  • Do not pressure them to leave the abusive relationship. There are many reasons they may choose to stay. It is possible their abuser has threatened to hurt them or their children if they try to leave. The abuser may control all of their finances and may have isolated the victim from friends and family, leaving them with very few resources of their own. The abuser may have promised to change, and the victim may still love them. It is never as simple as encouraging a victim to “just leave” but by all means, communicate to them that help does exist, and that people in their community care about them and their children and want them to be safe.

This is a recent case that happened not to long ago about child abuse.

This step mother (Elizabeth Ruiz) and Baby Father (Philip Martinez) Starved and abused their 6 year old son.

Not only was her 6 year old step son STARVED /MALNOURISHED they beat him up!!

He was 10 pounds when he got to the hospital and is suffering from liver,Kidney failure and internal bleeding along with bruises all over his face and body ! He had BITE MARKS for crying out loud .

He was days from passing. Liz was the step mom. She kept the baby mom away because she was insecure. As for the family they didn’t know Eli was starving.She kept him away. They did not let them see Eli. Elizabeth and Philip hid Eli away claiming he was sick or tired or not hungry or  had Covid.